How do you feel content?
What I don’t feel
· Sickness in my stomach
· Tension in my shoulders or jaw
· Tightness in my chest
What I do feel
An ease and lightness. An absence of the above and an openness and willingness to feel what may follow.
Being a feeling, an emotion, I believe there is great value in accepting that it is experienced and passes. Not an aspirational permanent state of being. I believe emotions serve us well as feedback when in motion. Sit with it, label it, thank it and let it move on. A commitment to a permanent emotional state has an uncanny way of shaping what we look for and decide is possible even before we act and experience life. Creating a movie of sorts for us to live out in our heads without freeing us up to be present and experience life as it unfolds. Limiting what is possible and reducing our emotional range to experience a full rich life.
How I experience contentment may not resonate with you and that is great. Know how you experience contentment. What it feels like and where it resides in your body, what thoughts, decisions and actions does it follow?
*“Contentment is an unreliable emotion. It sneaks off, leaving us battling the dissatisfactions and covetous itches alone. And when it leaves us, the possibility of accepting what we have – and who we are – seems entirely improbable. But then back it creeps in the silent flush of an early morning, or in the pub, or eating chips on the pier, and we briefly notice that life, truly, is perfectly enough, just as it is.”
Too often success is a function of doing in the absence of feeling. If we apply the same foresight and planning of actions required to be successful to our emotions we can be both successful and content.
Brian Klindworth is a Life Strategist who works with successful people to be both successful and content. For a discussion on how you can lead a purpose driven and holistic life call Brian on 0450 734 023.
*The Book of Human Emotions, Tiffany Watt Smith